God and Sexuality - Three Stances: Sex is God

“Eat, friends, drink, and be drunk with love!” -Song of Solomon 5:1b

"Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy." -Romans 13:13

I am of the belief that sex is not talked about enough in our Christian circles; oftentimes when it is talked about, it is not talked about correctly. So let’s talk about it.

I believe that people look at sex as one of three things (borrowed from a sermon series on Song of Solomon by Pastor Mark Driscoll): 1. Sex is God. 2. Sex is gross. 3. Sex is a gift.

Unfortunately, I see #1 as being the most prevalent in American culture, especially pop culture. When you can’t even watch a commercial about a hamburger without being bombarded with seductive looks and women’s breasts, you know you live in a sexually-charged culture. This is a problem. When we elevate sex to the status of God, then we allow our sexuality to call the shots without regard to what the True God says.

You see, God sets parameters on what sex should look like. For example, “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” (Hebrews 13:4) If sex is our god, then adultery is no longer out of the question. I’ll discuss more about why God places these parameters a little bit later in the iDevo message. Just know that God never designed sex to take his place. We must have control over our sexuality, not vice versa. This causes problems in relationships, because when a person thinks of sex as God, then it becomes a terrible thing for that person when sexual desires are not met adequately or to the standard that the person expects. Since sex is God in this person’s mind, then the right thing to do is to fulfill those desires, regardless of moral consequences. (i.e. It’s okay to cheat on your wife if she is not satisfying you in bed. Or it’s okay to have sex outside of marriage because God created those desires.) This is NOT what God has in mind, and it is ravaging Christian sexuality.

Let me tell you another sexual perversion ravaging Christian sexuality: pornography. Pornography is so dangerous because it teaches us sex without consequences. It teaches us that we can just choose whatever body type we want whenever we want. It teaches us instant satisfaction. It teaches us that women can be exploited for sex. It is all about pleasure and carnality and not at all about intimacy and deep spiritual connection to another human being. Pornography is sexual immorality and it ruins God’s design for what sex should be. Not to mention the societal implications it has. Many women in pornography are victims of sex trafficking, and the promotion of pornography allows for the progression of human sex trafficking. Brothers and sisters, if you are caught up in porn, tell someone immediately. Bring it out into the light and conquer it before it conquers you. Seek after God’s heart, because you will not overcome it just by trying to get rid of it. You have to replace it with the presence of God. For some more help with this, check out http://www.myhopetour.com/sexting-pornography.

Don't let your desire for sex take the place of God. I know hormones make you think crazy things, but hold off for the right person. Yes, God gave you these desires, but He wants you to use them in the way he designed them to be used.

Tomorrow we'll talk about stance #2 - Sex is Gross. Check it out tomorrow on idevo.org.